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SF D/s Discussion Group
Monday, October 15, 7:30pm – 9:30pm
Center for Sex and Culture: 1349 Mission St. San Francisco, CA
Generally meets on the third Monday of each month, from 7:30-9:30pm
Doors open at 7:00pm; meeting starts at 7:30pm
Join us at the Center for Sex and Culture for a directed discussion—held in a spirit of fellowship and mutual respect, on matters pertaining to Mastery, slavery, Dominance and submission, with an emphasis on our M/s and D/s lives—among persons of a variety of backgrounds, views, sensibilities, and philosophies.
The meeting is open to adults having a sincere, positive, personal interest in M/s or D/s, and who agree to keep confidential, within their own dynamic, what transpires at the meeting. All roles, gender identifications, and orientations are welcome. Please RSVVEP(*) in the week preceding the meeting to either of these addresses:
Eric Arkouda — EArkouda@mailworks.org
SF D/s Discussion Group mailing list at SFDsDG@yahoogroups.com
A $5-$10 donation to our host, the CSC, is requested.
SFDsDG Meeting Dates in 2012 Nov19 Dec17
* RSVVEP: Repondez si vous voudriez ecirctre preacutesente, “respond if you’d like to attend”, a statement of desire to attend. Please send this in if there’s a 50% chance of your being able to attend; for my gathering of rough numbers, and saying hello.
It is ok to redistribute this official description.
Home: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/SFDsDG
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SF D/s Discussion Group

Monday, October 15, 7:30pm – 9:30pm

Center for Sex and Culture: 1349 Mission St. San Francisco, CA

Generally meets on the third Monday of each month, from 7:30-9:30pm

Doors open at 7:00pm; meeting starts at 7:30pm

Join us at the Center for Sex and Culture for a directed discussion—held in a spirit of fellowship and mutual respect, on matters pertaining to Mastery, slavery, Dominance and submission, with an emphasis on our M/s and D/s lives—among persons of a variety of backgrounds, views, sensibilities, and philosophies.

The meeting is open to adults having a sincere, positive, personal interest in M/s or D/s, and who agree to keep confidential, within their own dynamic, what transpires at the meeting. All roles, gender identifications, and orientations are welcome. Please RSVVEP(*) in the week preceding the meeting to either of these addresses:

Eric Arkouda — EArkouda@mailworks.org

SF D/s Discussion Group mailing list at SFDsDG@yahoogroups.com

A $5-$10 donation to our host, the CSC, is requested.

SFDsDG Meeting Dates in 2012 Nov19 Dec17

* RSVVEP: Repondez si vous voudriez ecirctre preacutesente, “respond if you’d like to attend”, a statement of desire to attend. Please send this in if there’s a 50% chance of your being able to attend; for my gathering of rough numbers, and saying hello.

It is ok to redistribute this official description.

Home: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/SFDsDG

Image by Library Vixen

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SF D/s Discussion Group
Monday, December 17, 7:30pm – 9:30pm
Center for Sex and Culture: 1349 Mission St. San Francisco, CA
Generally meets on the third Monday of each month, from 7:30-9:30pm
Doors open at 7:00pm; meeting starts at 7:30pm
Join us at the Center for Sex and Culture for a directed discussion—held in a spirit of fellowship and mutual respect, on matters pertaining to Mastery, slavery, Dominance and submission, with an emphasis on our M/s and D/s lives—among persons of a variety of backgrounds, views, sensibilities, and philosophies.
The meeting is open to adults having a sincere, positive, personal interest in M/s or D/s, and who agree to keep confidential, within their own dynamic, what transpires at the meeting. All roles, gender identifications, and orientations are welcome. Please RSVVEP(*) in the week preceding the meeting to either of these addresses:
Eric Arkouda — EArkouda@mailworks.org
SF D/s Discussion Group mailing list at SFDsDG@yahoogroups.com
A $5-$10 donation to our host, the CSC, is requested.
* RSVVEP: Repondez si vous voudriez ecirctre preacutesente, “respond if you’d like to attend”, a statement of desire to attend. Please send this in if there’s a 50% chance of your being able to attend; for my gathering of rough numbers, and saying hello.
It is ok to redistribute this official description.
Home: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/SFDsDG
Image by Library Vixen

SF D/s Discussion Group

Monday, December 17, 7:30pm – 9:30pm

Center for Sex and Culture: 1349 Mission St. San Francisco, CA

Generally meets on the third Monday of each month, from 7:30-9:30pm

Doors open at 7:00pm; meeting starts at 7:30pm

Join us at the Center for Sex and Culture for a directed discussion—held in a spirit of fellowship and mutual respect, on matters pertaining to Mastery, slavery, Dominance and submission, with an emphasis on our M/s and D/s lives—among persons of a variety of backgrounds, views, sensibilities, and philosophies.

The meeting is open to adults having a sincere, positive, personal interest in M/s or D/s, and who agree to keep confidential, within their own dynamic, what transpires at the meeting. All roles, gender identifications, and orientations are welcome. Please RSVVEP(*) in the week preceding the meeting to either of these addresses:

Eric Arkouda — EArkouda@mailworks.org

SF D/s Discussion Group mailing list at SFDsDG@yahoogroups.com

A $5-$10 donation to our host, the CSC, is requested.

* RSVVEP: Repondez si vous voudriez ecirctre preacutesente, “respond if you’d like to attend”, a statement of desire to attend. Please send this in if there’s a 50% chance of your being able to attend; for my gathering of rough numbers, and saying hello.

It is ok to redistribute this official description.

Home: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/SFDsDG

Image by Library Vixen

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Society of Janus Presents: self-ish Submission: Why your Needs Should be Nourished - presented by Mollena
Sunday, June 17, 2012
6:00 PM –8:00 PM
Center for Sex and Culture
1349 Mission Street, San Francisco
Doors open at 5:00 pm
Please note: you do not need to be a member to attend. Janus programs are open to all attendees 18 years of age and older who have a personal, positive interest in BDSM.
The program runs from 6:00 pm to 8:00 pm, but come early for a mixer and social event!
About Our Program
This exciting and timely program is presented for the Society of Janus by Mollena.
As submissives and slaves, we often approach our relationships from the viewpoint that the ultimate goal is to meet the needs of our partners, and in that way, have our own needs met. While this seems a lofty goal, fully abandoning one’s own needs and wants may not bring the blissful surrender you seek. Sometimes? We need more. Feedback, affection, focus, attention. In power exchange relationships (Hey, they’re called ”exchange” for a reason!) there needs to be an ebb and flow, a give and take that fulfills all parties involved. Knowing what you need, what it takes to achieve your needs, and expressing them clearly can help you be present and fulfilled in your relationships.
We will discuss ways to handle questions such as determining:
How do I know what I want?
What would happen if I have my needs met?
What would happen if I do not have my needs met?
When does serving another become compromising myself?
How do I know when I’ve gone too far?
This discussion will revolve around assessing, categorizing prioritizing and supporting your needs and your wants, and discovering what you are…or are not…willing to do to have these met.
About our Presenter, Mollena Williams
This “Delicate, Trembling Flower of Submission” © is a NYC born and raised writer, actress, BDSM Educator, Storyteller and an Award-Winning Executive Pervert. She is extremely proud to have served as International Ms Leather 2010. She is also thrilled to have been named Ms. San Francisco Leather 2009 after that contest’s decade long slumber.
Exploring kink since 1993, active in BDSM and the Leather Community since 1996, and presenting classes since 1998, she speaks at Leather, BDSM and Kink events across the US, Europe and Canada on many Leather and BDSM focused topics.

Society of Janus Presents: self-ish Submission: Why your Needs Should be Nourished - presented by Mollena

Sunday, June 17, 2012

6:00 PM –8:00 PM

Center for Sex and Culture

1349 Mission Street, San Francisco

Doors open at 5:00 pm

Please note: you do not need to be a member to attend. Janus programs are open to all attendees 18 years of age and older who have a personal, positive interest in BDSM.

The program runs from 6:00 pm to 8:00 pm, but come early for a mixer and social event!

About Our Program

This exciting and timely program is presented for the Society of Janus by Mollena.

As submissives and slaves, we often approach our relationships from the viewpoint that the ultimate goal is to meet the needs of our partners, and in that way, have our own needs met. While this seems a lofty goal, fully abandoning one’s own needs and wants may not bring the blissful surrender you seek. Sometimes? We need more. Feedback, affection, focus, attention. In power exchange relationships (Hey, they’re called ”exchange” for a reason!) there needs to be an ebb and flow, a give and take that fulfills all parties involved. Knowing what you need, what it takes to achieve your needs, and expressing them clearly can help you be present and fulfilled in your relationships.

We will discuss ways to handle questions such as determining:

How do I know what I want?

What would happen if I have my needs met?

What would happen if I do not have my needs met?

When does serving another become compromising myself?

How do I know when I’ve gone too far?

This discussion will revolve around assessing, categorizing prioritizing and supporting your needs and your wants, and discovering what you are…or are not…willing to do to have these met.

About our Presenter, Mollena Williams

This “Delicate, Trembling Flower of Submission” © is a NYC born and raised writer, actress, BDSM Educator, Storyteller and an Award-Winning Executive Pervert. She is extremely proud to have served as International Ms Leather 2010. She is also thrilled to have been named Ms. San Francisco Leather 2009 after that contest’s decade long slumber.

Exploring kink since 1993, active in BDSM and the Leather Community since 1996, and presenting classes since 1998, she speaks at Leather, BDSM and Kink events across the US, Europe and Canada on many Leather and BDSM focused topics.

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Salome’s Modernity: Oscar Wilde and the Aesthetics of Transgression! This Tuesday!

Tuesday 7 pm at CSC
Come listen to a lively audio and video lecture on Oscar Wilde’s daring 1891 play about a rebellious Biblical princess, a dance, a beheading, and an exquisite, deadly kiss. Based on her recent book (University of Michigan Press, 2011), Stanford University scholar Petra Dierkes-Thrun discusses major milestones in the fascinating history of feminist, queer, and mainstream adaptations of Wilde’s play from the 1890s to the present, ranging from visual art work to Strauss’s opera, to stuck-up censors, female dancers, and innovative queer filmmakers and artists who have immortalized the perverse love story of Wilde’s Salome and John the Baptist.

Q&A and book signing to follow.

Petra Dierkes-Thrun is a Lecturer in the Comparative Literature Department at Stanford University, where she teaches and writes about gender and sexuality studies in the context of late 19th-century and modern European and transatlantic literature and culture.

Salome’s Modernity (the book) can be ordered a
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I remember them

Submitted by Marlene Hoeber for Transgender Day of Remembrance, 11/20:

It’s Transgender Day of Remembrance. Today we remember those lost in the last year to transphobic violence.

I refuse to remember you next year. You will still be here. I insist.

I have hands and mind and the will. If need be, I have guns and knives and boots and bricks and I know where to get torches and pitchforks. All of these things I have are for you, because I refuse to remember you next year. You will still be here. I insist.

You are quiet and I have not heard enough from you lately. I hope you are ok. Are they mistreating you? Are you mistreating yourself? I have a comfortable couch and quiet conversation and a glass of brandy and a bowl of soup and a loud laugh. These things too are all for you, because. I insist.

I spend the time I can surrounded by boxes full of other people’s memories. I am nearly a professional rememberer. Whether you slip quietly away, surrounded by those who love you, or you fall in the fight against those who would see you suffer, I will collect the box of things that others can remember you by. I am not afraid to remember you, but I will not remember you next year. You will still be here. I insist.

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Center for Sex & Culture intern Marilyn Roxie shares their experience with CSC! If you have participated in, conducted, or been an audience member at an event at the Center, been an intern, or been otherwise involved with the Center, we would love to hear your stories - submit them here: http://centersexculture.tumblr.com/submit—-My name is Marilyn Roxie and I have been an intern at the Center for Sex & Culture since the summer of 2011. Through doing social media and work with the Center’s library collection, I have come to be even more passionate about my fields of study at City College, where I am pursuing a double major in LGBT Studies and Library Information Technology, and my efforts at education and activism at Genderqueerid.com. I feel I have already learned so much in this short span of time, keeping abreast of the current climate of sexual expression in a variety of arenas, and, importantly, the people involved in bringing about positive openness and change, and through getting familiar with the impressive sexological and erotological library collection. The Center is such a fantastic, welcoming place to explore these topics and although I have only recently become a part of it, I am sure to remain connected and interested beyond the length of my internship.I first found out about the Center for Sex & Culture from interviewing Carol Queen in March 2011 for my LGBT American History class. Carol was one of the first people that came to mind when this oral history assignment came up, as she has been very inspiring to me. The book PoMoSexuals: Challenging Assumptions About Gender and Sexuality (edited by Carol Queen and Lawrence Schimiel) was instrumental in helping me finally come to accept my own identity as a queer, non-binary trans* person who didn’t fit any of the dominant narratives available. Reading this work was a springboard to exploring her other written works, particularly Exhibitionism for the Shy (I’m still personally working on the “shy” bit, as anyone who encounters me in person will quickly learn!), and finding out about her role as Staff Sexologist at Good Vibrations and founder of the Center for Sex & Culture. When seeking out an internship over the summer, after such a good and insightful experience with Carol and her partner Robert who was also present and participated in the interview, I decided to look into the Center, found out about their internship program, and have been working with the fabulous Library Vixen since.Since I am in the midst of making an inventory of what’s in the Center’s library that is shelved so far -there are many more boxes of treasures left to uncover!- I thought I would share my top three favorite finds of books in the collection so far that you can look forward to accessing in the future (open hours are not far off!):
Taschen art and photography books: I was familiar with Taschen’s The Big Book of… series from encountering them at Good Vibes but it wasn’t until recently that I became aware of the scope Taschen has covered, especially the exquisitely packaged multi-volume sets The Complete Reprint of Physique Pictoral and The Complete Reprint of Exotique.
Gay Sunshine/Leyland Publications: A stack of brightly colored, smuttily titled books stood out to me in particular the first time I shelved books at the Center. LUST introduced me to the Straight to Hell (“S.T.H.”) chapbooks and a world of hot vintage erotica I hadn’t known about before.
Kate Bornstein - Hello Cruel World: 101 Alternatives to Suicide for Teens, Freaks and Other Outlaws: This isn’t so much a discovery since I already knew about and admired Bornstein (My Gender Workbook is on par with PoMoSexuals for the impact it had in my life), but seeing Hello Cruel World on the shelf reminded me that I needed to read it. How warmly, frankly, and often with a dash of humor Bornstein deals with this serious topic! Highly recommended.
—-Marilyn Roxie elsewhere on the web:@MarilynRoxie on TwitterGenderqueerid.comAll the Lovely Lovelies (Masculine Beauty Tumblr, NSFW)

Center for Sex & Culture intern Marilyn Roxie shares their experience with CSC! If you have participated in, conducted, or been an audience member at an event at the Center, been an intern, or been otherwise involved with the Center, we would love to hear your stories - submit them here: http://centersexculture.tumblr.com/submit
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My name is Marilyn Roxie and I have been an intern at the Center for Sex & Culture since the summer of 2011. Through doing social media and work with the Center’s library collection, I have come to be even more passionate about my fields of study at City College, where I am pursuing a double major in LGBT Studies and Library Information Technology, and my efforts at education and activism at Genderqueerid.com. I feel I have already learned so much in this short span of time, keeping abreast of the current climate of sexual expression in a variety of arenas, and, importantly, the people involved in bringing about positive openness and change, and through getting familiar with the impressive sexological and erotological library collection. The Center is such a fantastic, welcoming place to explore these topics and although I have only recently become a part of it, I am sure to remain connected and interested beyond the length of my internship.

I first found out about the Center for Sex & Culture from interviewing Carol Queen in March 2011 for my LGBT American History class. Carol was one of the first people that came to mind when this oral history assignment came up, as she has been very inspiring to me. The book PoMoSexuals: Challenging Assumptions About Gender and Sexuality (edited by Carol Queen and Lawrence Schimiel) was instrumental in helping me finally come to accept my own identity as a queer, non-binary trans* person who didn’t fit any of the dominant narratives available. Reading this work was a springboard to exploring her other written works, particularly Exhibitionism for the Shy (I’m still personally working on the “shy” bit, as anyone who encounters me in person will quickly learn!), and finding out about her role as Staff Sexologist at Good Vibrations and founder of the Center for Sex & Culture. When seeking out an internship over the summer, after such a good and insightful experience with Carol and her partner Robert who was also present and participated in the interview, I decided to look into the Center, found out about their internship program, and have been working with the fabulous Library Vixen since.

Since I am in the midst of making an inventory of what’s in the Center’s library that is shelved so far -there are many more boxes of treasures left to uncover!- I thought I would share my top three favorite finds of books in the collection so far that you can look forward to accessing in the future (open hours are not far off!):

  1. Taschen art and photography books: I was familiar with Taschen’s The Big Book of… series from encountering them at Good Vibes but it wasn’t until recently that I became aware of the scope Taschen has covered, especially the exquisitely packaged multi-volume sets The Complete Reprint of Physique Pictoral and The Complete Reprint of Exotique.
  2. Gay Sunshine/Leyland Publications: A stack of brightly colored, smuttily titled books stood out to me in particular the first time I shelved books at the Center. LUST introduced me to the Straight to Hell (“S.T.H.”) chapbooks and a world of hot vintage erotica I hadn’t known about before.
  3. Kate Bornstein - Hello Cruel World: 101 Alternatives to Suicide for Teens, Freaks and Other Outlaws: This isn’t so much a discovery since I already knew about and admired Bornstein (My Gender Workbook is on par with PoMoSexuals for the impact it had in my life), but seeing Hello Cruel World on the shelf reminded me that I needed to read it. How warmly, frankly, and often with a dash of humor Bornstein deals with this serious topic! Highly recommended.

—-
Marilyn Roxie elsewhere on the web:
@MarilynRoxie on Twitter
Genderqueerid.com
All the Lovely Lovelies (Masculine Beauty Tumblr, NSFW)

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