Center for Sex and Culture

Society of Janus: Kinky Speed Dating: Male Tops/Female Bottoms (Ages 25 to 40)

January 26th, 3:00pm - 5:00pm

Center for Sex and Culture: 1349 Mission St. (between 9th and 10th), San Francisco

Cost:

All Janus members and reciprocal orgs: $10

Non-member Males: $25

Non-member Females: $15

Dress code: Whatever makes you feel good

The event will be limited to 15 men and 15 women so that you will chat with the gender and role that you are seeking. Participants will have 5 to 6 minutes to converse and then move on to the next person.

After the event, you will receive the Fetlife handle and/or email contact of the participants who expressed an interest in you and in whom you expressed an interest.

There will be a series of “conversation starter” questions provided to help get things started if you need them. Their use will be completely optional though, you’ll be free to chat about whatever.

This Program is a first in a series of speed dating events designed to help all genders/identities discover new dates. This event is focused on male tops/female bottoms, but future events will focus on other dynamics and identities (e.g. female tops/male bottoms, queer, TG, etc). In the future other age ranges will be provided as well.

If you have a suggestion for a specific program please send a message to programs (at) soj (dot) org and we will look into organizing it.

Prepaying

We now have the ability for you to purchase a ticket for this class online.

https://www.wepay.com/xagi7bb/events/kinky-speed-dating-ages-25-to-40

Please feel free to use the option that will appear, “This ticket is for someone else.” You can fill that out to print your Fetlife/Scene/Internet/Starbucks name on the ticket if you wish without affecting your purchase. You’ll need to add any initial in the last name field.

If you’re a Janus member, you will need to include your membership number on the question form. Please make sure to print out your ticket and bring it with you.

Note: Janus programs are generally open to all attendees 18 years of age and older who have a personal positive interest in BDSM. You do not need to be a member to attend.

Douchebag Deviants class and Playing Well With Others: Lee Harrington and Mollena Williams Bookparty

Sunday, November 11th, 5-7pm

$15.00 At The Door

Center for Sex and Culture: 1349 Mission St. San Francisco, CA 94103

Join Lee Harrington and Mollena as they hit Northern California on their EPIC International Whistle Stop Tour 2012! They’ll be autographing copies of their best-selling book “Playing Well With Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Exploring & Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities” as well as their respective Toybag guises, Lee’s books “Sacred Sexuality” and “Shibari You Can Use” and Mollena’s DVD from Kink Academy on Submission and Service! Get ‘em autographed, meet the authots and support  them in their quest to kink across America & Canada!

That will also be presenting one of their co-presented classes, created especially for the “Whistle Stop Tour:” DOUCHEBAG DEVIANTS! 

How do you handle the persistent douchebag whose behaviour seems unchecked? The high-profile douchebag that everyone seems reluctant to confront? What should your behaviour be in the face of flagrant douchebaggery, and most importantly, how do we handle our own inner douchebag when they rear their ugly, nozzled, head?

This class takes a look at the gamut of idiocy…both ours and others, and examines ways to turn an awkward situation towards positive outcome, or opportunity to educate. Bring your stories, and let’s hash this out! From the silly to the serious, we’ll take a look at how we can manage ourselves, our expectations, and our reactions to Douchebag Deviants.

More about Playing Well With Others: The essential guide to kink outside the bedroom:

Whether you’re a trembling novice or a jaded expert, there’s always something new to be discovered in the endlessly changing, complex and titillating world of kink. While there are plenty of other books out there that explain how to give a spanking or tie a half-hitch, Playing Well With Others is the first book that explains kink *culture* — the munches, parties, leather bars, conferences, workshops, fetish nights, exploratoriums and all the other gatherings of kinksters that turn BDSM and leather from a bedroom predilection to a lifestyle and a community. 

You’ll learn to:

• Examine your own motivations, needs, wants and desires

• Ease your way into established communities

• Understand etiquette in different adventurous sex communities

• Familiarize yourself with the many types of events available to you

• Care for your relationships as you explore new territory

• Negotiate for play and aftercare

• Go back to the “world at large” without ruffling feathers

• …and, of course, answer the all-important question: What do you wear?!

The team of Harrington and Williams offers 30-plus years of experience in diverse kink communities: top, bottom and switch; gay, bi and  straight; female, male and trans; white and POC. Both former titleholders and international educators, they are an unbeatable pair of “sexual sherpas” with an inimitable voice and a great deal of wisdom. 

Playing Well With Others is an unprecedented and essential guidebook for anyone who wants to explore or understand the “community” aspect of the kink lifestyle.