Carol Queen’s Birthday – a CSC Benefit at The Make-Out Room!
My Perverted Sucky Valentine Puts Out!
Saturday, February 9
Doors 7pm, Show 8pm
The Center for Sex and Culture
1349 Mission St. San Francisco, CA 94103
For an anti-Valentine’s event of epic proportions, two of San Francisco’s most celebrated erotic literary events join forces! On February 9, the Center will host the collision of Perverts Put Out and My Sucky Valentine! Come hear some of SF’s favorite erotic authors read and tell stories about dirty love, dirtier lovemaking and the train-wreck delights of romance-gone-wrong!
Our three-way of hosts will be Carol Queen, Simon Sheppard and Thomas S. Roche; expect filthy heartache from Bay Area luminaries Charlie Jane Anders, M. Christian, Daphne Gottlieb, Philip Huang, Allison Moon and horehound stillpoint. This event is a benefit for the Center for Sex and Culture and the St. James Infirmary.
Are you an Evolver? What is love?
Join us during the month of February, as Evolver explores conscious love, sensuality and intimacy in its many forms…
• Are you loving, and being loved, as deeply as you want?
• Have you wondered how you can offer and receive love, through your body and your whole being, more and more unconditionally?
• Would you like to tap into practices that blend the most profound and blissful tantric and mystical traditions with expanded consciousness?
• Would you like to live as love rather than just visit it from time to time?
For the live, interactive video course “From Sex to Super-Consciousness: The Future of Love," host Adam Gilad has assembled 7 remarkable experts on the ways that sensuality and intimacy provide an ecstatic path to profound spiritual experience: Annie Lalla, Alex Allman, Sera Beak, Michael Mirdad, Marc Gafni, Carol Queen and Reid Mihalko.
With humor, with infinite heart, and with compassion for the fear and pain we all experience, we are going to explore Eros, sexuality, consciousness and vision. Snuggling with the juiciest, sexiest core of our intertwining bodies, and with the most blissed-out dissolution of our small selves into the awakening of our fullest expression as conscious beings, we will discover what we can evolve into as individuals, as lovers and as a species…
Sex is play. Sex is surrender. Sex is profound and dangerous and exhilarating discovery – of our truest selves and the selves of our lovers.
Sex can be entertainment, distraction, obsession — or it can be revelation of our truest selves, our most infinite consciousness. Through our bodies touching, we can touch the divine.
Now you can join Adam and his guests for a 5-session live, interactive video course that will stoke your imagination and answer your questions. Each session will be a dialog between Adam and one or two featured guests. And you will be part of the discussion, able to ask your questions on camera, just like a Skype call.
To find out more, please visit: http://evolverintensives.com/upcoming/eros.html
About the Evolver Intensives
Life-changing ideas acquire a deeper resonance when encountered through the live presentation of an inspiring teacher. Through the Evolver Intensives, you can meet some of the most brilliant and pioneering thinkers of our time directly over the Internet, so you can experience them as if you were together in the same room.
Using state-of-the-art video streaming technology, we broadcast live lectures and discussions from around the world to your laptop. And you can participate in the discussion, ask questions to the course leaders, and share your thoughts with fellow students. All you need is a broadband connection and a web browser — you don’t have to download or install any software. If you can watch videos on YouTube, you can participate in an Evolver Intensives course.
BROADBAND - NICHOLAS WEBER
JOIN US ON SUNDAY, FEBRUARY 17 FOR TWO EVENTS
Foot In Mouth 1. 2010. 11 x 14 inches. Oil on Canvas. Collection of Richard Prince.
Res Ipsa Gallery and the Center for Sex and Culture proudly present two events on the afternoon of Sunday, February 17 – both relating to Nick Weber’s Broadband, which is on view in the gallery. Broadband is a series of oil paintings inspired by still images that Weber selects from internet porn videos.
Panel – Putting a Frame on Shame: Exploring Sexual Content in Fine Art: February 17,
2pm. Featuring artist NICK WEBER, sexologist CAROL QUEEN, and sex and relationship expert REID MIHALKO. Join us for a thoughtful, revealing and funny conversation about how sex is and isn’t depicted in art – and why. Free.
Workshop: February 17, 3pm-5pm. Negotiating Successful Threesomes, presented jointly by
Reid Mihalko and Carol Queen. This is a modified version of a signature Mihalko workshop. Even if you would never be interested in a 3-way, this fun-filled and non-threatening class will give you lots of ways to talk to your loved ones about the things you do want in the bedroom – no matter how tame or outrageous! Tickets $20 in advance and $30 at the door. Tix: http://reidmihalkocarolqueenthreesomeworkshop.eventbrite.com/#
Both events at: 455 17th Street, 3rd Floor, Oakland.
ABOUT REID MIHALKO: Sex and relationship expert Reid Mihalko
(www.ReidAboutSex.com) helps adults create more self-esteem, self-confidence and greater health in relationships and sex lives with an inspiring mixture of humor and knowledge. Reid has appeared on Oprah’s Our America With Lisa Ling on OWN, the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Dr. Phil’s The Doctors on CBS, Bravo’s Miss Advised, Fox News, in Newsweek, Seventeen, GQ, The Washington Post, and in thirteen countries and at least seven languages. His workshops and lectures have been attended by close to 40,000 men and women.
ABOUT CAROL QUEEN: Carol Queen, Ph.D., is a cultural sexologist. (carolqueen.com) While she addresses individual’s and couple’s sexual concerns, her overarching interest is in cultural issues. She is the founding director of the Center for Sex & Culture, a non-profit sex ed/arts center San Francisco (www.sexandculture.org), and is a frequent lecturer at colleges, conferences, and community-based organizations. Her dozen books include a Lambda Literary Award winner, PoMoSexuals, and Real Live Nude Girl: Chronicles of Sex-Positive Culture, both of which are used as texts in college classes.
Queen is the Staff Sexologist and Chief Cultural Officer at Good Vibrations (www.goodvibes.com), the woman-founded sexuality company. She blogs at the Good Vibes Magazine and was formerly the sex advice columnist for the East Bay Express. For more:www.carolqueen.com.
ABOUT NICK WEBER: Nick Weber is a painter and photographer who graduated from Stanford in 1993 with BA in studio art. At Stanford, he studied painting with Nathan Oliveira (1928-2010), whose mentorship continues to exert a strong influence on Weber’s work. Weber exhibited his work recently at AMH, 144 10th Avenue in Chelsea, NYC, and at John McWhinnie on 64th Street, the Fireplace Project in East Hampton, Tripoli Gallery of Contemporary Art in Southampton, and the Scope Hamptons Art Fair. Weber’s work has been featured in the New York Post, the NBC Nightly News, Time Out Magazine, CBS Sunday Morning, and the Village Voice. Collectors of his work include Richard Prince, Lisa de Kooning, Phil Aarons, and Glenn Horowitz. Weber lives in Amagansett, New York.
ABOUT RES IPSA: Jonathan Ball, an Oakland lawyer and photographer, founded Res Ipsa in 2011. Res Ipsa, which means the “thing itself,” showcases contemporary work in a variety of media from a diverse range of artists. Res Ipsa is committed to showing innovative work that speaks for itself. The gallery typically presents up to six solo shows per year, and works in close collaboration with a small group of artists. As a member of Oakland’s Art Murmur, Res Ipsa is open the first Friday evening of each month, as well as by appointment and for special events throughout the year.
Saturday, February 23, 2013 - Door-7:30p Show-8p
Center for Sex and Culture: 1349 Mission St. San Francisco 94103
$10 to $20 sliding scale, no one turned away for lack of funds
A benefit for the Center for Sex and Culture and the Sex Workers Outreach Project (SWOP)
A night of writing and performance inspired by the work in sexwork of all stripes, by the workers who do it. No fishnets, no oh baby. Just the strenuous, the sweaty, the sweet, the unglamourous, the determined and the damned, the hilarious, the embarrassing, the legal, the conflicted, the arrested, the triumphant, the boring, and the lost. Just a look at what money means, and what our bodies do that matters.
With: Apaulo Hart, Carol Queen, Chad Litz, Cho Whoreingsly Prancypants, Daphne Gottlieb, Jacques LeFemme, Janetta Johnson, Miss Lola Sunshine, Shelley “Muffie” Mays.
MC: This American Whore’s Siouxsie Q.
Curated by Lisa Kester.
Sunday, March 3, 7pm
At the Center for Sex & Culture, 1349 Mission St., San Francisco
No charge—donations gratefully accepted
In conjunction with CSC’s March gallery show Letters to a Porn Star: Nina Hartley Fan Mail, we’ve invited some of our favorite porn performers past and present to join us for a panel discussion especially focused on interactions with fans and the public. There ARE no popular performers, much less stars, without fans — but what’s that relationship like? How do fans communicate with porn stars today, and has the increased mainstream profile of porn changed the way fans relate to their faves in the industry? Are there differences between queer, gay male, straight porn? We’ll explore these and other questions! Moderator Carol Queen, PhD welcomes Lorelei Lee, Mickey Mod, Conner Habib, Richard Pacheco, CJ Laing, and others TBA for an in-depth discussion about one of the most central but little-discussed elements of the porn world! Don’t miss this once-in-a-lifetime gathering!
Erotic Reading Circle
Wednesday, February 27th, 7:30pm - 9:30pm
Center for Sex and Culture: 1349 Mission St. San Francisco, CA
$5 suggested donation Come share new or old work with us! We listen non-judgmentally and share our responses with any writer/reader who feels s/he/ze can benefit from peers’ feedback. And it’s great practice if you’ve been thinking about doing any public readings. We welcome writers of any experience level and every orientation. A Best of the Bay award-winning event! Returns to regular 4th Wednesdays after 1/2 and 1/30 meetings.
I’m happy to say that we have launched the Kickstarter campaign for the first catalog to be published by the Center for Sex and Culture Gallery. We have chosen a very important body of work for this first effort: our collection of safer sex posters, graciously donated to us by Buzz Bense. I would very much appreciate any donation you can make to support this project, but also your efforts in spreading the word about this campaign.
A night of genderQueer readings with Jiz Lee, Sam Rosenthal, Carol Queen, and more!
Saturday, May 4, 2013 7:00pm until 9:30pm
An exciting evening of readings from beyond the gender binary. Doors at 7pm, readings at 7:30
Center for Sex & Culture (1349 Mission btw 9th and 10th)
SAM ROSENTHAL visits from Brooklyn to present work from his erotic genderQueer romance novel Rye. Genderqueer porn star JIZ LEE’s reads new work; their writing recently appeared in the Feminist Porn Book! CAROL QUEEN, author, sexologist, and pillar of the sex-positive feminism movement presents new work of personal discovery and insight. Plus more writings from people along the gender spectrum and those who love them including: Gina de Vries, Seeley Quest, and Marilyn Roxie.
Suggested donation $5-20 sliding scale, NOTAFLOF.
KATE BORNSTEIN BENEFIT / LIVE THROUGH THIS 2nd edition release celebration
Sunday, May 5, 2013 7:30pm
Center for Sex and Culture: 1349 Mission St. San Francisco
Come join us celebrate the 2cd edition release of 'LIVE THROUGH THIS- ON CREATIVITY & SELF-DESTRUCTION' with an evening of performances and readings FEATURING
renegade musician/editor- SABRINA CHAP,
punk rock poet - DAPHNE GOTTLIEB,
sex genius - CAROL QUEEN
transgender activist/poet - JULIA SERANO
Proceeds of the evening will go to fellow ‘Live Through This’ contributor, and gender warrior Kate Bornstein!!!!!
5-10 suggested donation!!
ABOUT THE BOOK!!
"A stunning book. I found myself dreaming conversations with some of the writers—engaging in the conversation they begin here."
"This intimate book gives you all the tools for self-emergence."
In a collection of original stories, essays, artwork, and photography, Nan Goldin, Eileen Myles, bell hooks, and other cutting-edge artists explore their use of art to survive madness, abuse, incest, depression, and the impulse toward self-destruction manifest in eating disorders, cutting, addiction, and contemplation of suicide. The book confronts the brutality many women and girls encounter in the world around them, and bravely takes as its subject the often misunderstood violence they at times inflict upon themselves.
The diverse array of contributors here—novelists, poets, cartoonists, dancers, photographers, playwrights, burlesque performers—traverse the pains and passions that can both motivate and destroy women artists and mark a path for survival. Together they show that creative women are not destined to the fate of lost visionaries such as Woolf, Sexton, Arbus, and Plath. LIVE THROUGH THIS is a fearless exploration of women’s silent rage, the power that can come from internal struggle, and the possibility of transforming this burning force into fierce and enlightened work.
from SEVEN STORIES PRESS
Introduction by Amanda Palmer
With contributions by Margaret Cho, Nan Goldin, bell hooks, Swoon, Patricia Smith, Cristy Road, Carol Queen, Annie Sprinkle, Elizabeth Stephens, Carolyn Gage, Eileen Myles, Fly, Diane DiMassa, Bonfire Madigan, Inga Muscio, Kate Bornstein, Toni Blackman, Nicole Blackman, Silas Howard, Daphne Gottlieb, and Stephanie Howell.
CSC at the CA Academy of Science — Valentine’s Day Nightlife!
Every Thursday night from 6-10pm, music, creatures and cocktails come together for NightLife at the California Academy of Sciences. Each week features a live band or DJ, and a unique theme – from salsa dancing to sustainable seafood and beyond. 21+. 55 Music Concourse Drive (in Golden Gate Park), SF
2/14/2013 - “Spin the Bottle NightLife” - Celebrate Valentine’s Day and Beer Week in one fell swoop. Almanac Beer Co., Drake’s Brewing, Pac Brew Lab, anyone? Talks and activities by Center for Sex and Culture founders Carol Queen and Robert Lawrence. Sample V-day sweet treats provided by Whole Foods and get crafty with SCRAP. Music by Hard French DJs Carnita and Brown Amy plus Sweet Cheeks DJs Loco and Mawkus.
Spin the Bottle NightLife
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Celebrate Valentine’s Day and SF Beer Week in one fell swoop!
SF Beer Week Celebration in African Hall
6:00–10:00 pm, Beer Hall featuring:
Almanac Beer Co., Ale Industries, Speakeasy, Anchor Brewing, Anderson Valley Brewing Company, Drake’s Brewing, Lagunitas Brewing Company, and Pac Brew Lab
Activities in the East Pavilion
6:00–10:00 pm, Photoboof “Kiss Cam”
6:00–10:00 pm, Good Vibrations Pop-up Exhibit of Vibrators Past and Present
6:00–10:00 pm, Whole Foods Valentine’s Day Sweets
6:00–10:00 pm, SCRAP’s Valentine’s Day Crafts
Dance Party in the Piazza
6:00-10:00pm, Hard French is for Lovers: Hard French DJs Carnita and Brown Amy plus Cupid “love bombs” and other suprises
8:30 pm, Couples Dance-off, emceed by the Hard French Crew - Register when you arrive, space is limited!
Music in the Coral Reef
6:00-10:00pm, Sweet Cheeks DJs Loco and Mawkus
6:30 pm, Celestial Attractions
7:30 & 8:30 pm Earthquake: Evidence of a Restless Planet
Sex and Culture Talks in the Forum
Presented by the Center for Sex and Culture
7:00 pm, “A Brief History of Sex and Science” presented by Center for Sex and Culture founders Carol Queen and Robert Lawrence
8:00 pm, “How to Make Anything Sound Sexy” presented by Midori
9:00 pm, “Sex and Dating in San Francisco” presented by Carol Queen
Please note all three talks will be seated first-come, first-served
Science Love Stories in the Aquarium
7:30 pm, Chat with Academy Biologists Lauren Oquita and George Groh about animal reproduction in the Animal Attraction exhibit
Prop 35 Panel Discussion
October 14th, 2:00pm
Center for Sex and Culture: 1349 Mission St., San Francisco
A panel discussion voter information and press event, which unpacks the rhetoric behind the California state anti-“trafficking” ballot initiative.
Sex worker activists and advocates warn that California’s Prop. 35, the CASE Act (Californians Against Sexual Exploitation), while claiming to primarily target human trafficking, actually expands the definition of trafficking well beyond that currently recognized by global experts; expands prison sentences and sex offender registration, including in some cases for the people it claims it will protect; further criminalizes sex workers’ associates, including their partners; erodes affected persons’ online privacy; and seeks to channel fines to police agencies, sex work abolition agencies, and nonprofits associated with Homeland Security. Funded by an Internet entrepreneur and riding a wave of anti-trafficking activism, the CASE Act is likely to spawn comparable attempts at law reform in other states.
The Center for Sex & Culture convenes a panel to discuss this proposed law from a sex worker rights point of view. Featuring No on 35 voices: Maxine Doogan of the Erotic Service Providers Union, Rachel West of US Prostitutes Collective, Carol Leigh of BaySWAN (Bay Area Sex Workers’ Action Network), and Carol Queen, PhD of the Center for Sex & Culture. For more about Prop 35: http://www.againstthecaseact.com/ and www.noonprop35.info and http://esplerp.org/
Treasures from the Center for Sex and Culture
Carol Queen & Robert Lawrence
Wednesday, August 22, 2012 7:30 pm - 9:30 pm @ Mr S. Playspace, 385A Eighth Street
An evening with the co-founders and principals of San Francisco’s premier resource for all things sexual, the wondrous and underappreciated Center for Sex and Culture. Its mission: “to provide judgment-free education, cultural events, a library/media archive, and other resources to audiences across the sexual and gender spectrum. From our San Francisco home we promote creativity, information and healthy sexual knowledge.”
Carol and Robert will talk about their own roles in the erotic evolution of San Francisco’s leather/kink/fetish culture, about the development of their partnership and the creation of the CSC. They’ll also be bringing, for your perusal and inspection, an assortment of erotic art, publications, toys, posters, items from the estate of Larry Townsend (of THE LEATHERMAN’S HANDBOOK), turn-of-the-century buttplugs, plus other obscure, rare, and significant finds.
[NOTE: We’ll need a few extra volunteers for this program, to assist in transporting and displaying the items Robert and Carol will be bringing us from the CSC. If you can help, please drop us a line at firstname.lastname@example.org]
DR. CAROL QUEEN is a writer and cultural sexologist with a Ph.D. in human sexuality. She is a noted essayist whose work has appeared in dozens of anthologies. Her essay collection, REAL LIVE NUDE GIRL: CHRONICLES OF SEX-POSITIVE CULTURE, was published in 1997 and reissued in 2002; it is read in university classes across America. Her erotic stories can be found in several BEST AMERICAN EROTICA volumes, among many other anthologies; her erotic novel, THE LEATHER DADDY AND THE FEMME, was published in 1998 and won a Firecracker Alternative Book Award the following year. A “director’s cut” edition with new material came out in 2003. Her first book, EXHIBITIONISM FOR THE SHY, published in 1995, explores issues of erotic self-esteem and enhancement and was reissued with new material in 2009.
She is co-editor of the anthologies BEST BISEXUAL EROTICA (volumes One and Two), SEX SPOKEN HERE, SWITCH HITTIERS, and POMOSEXUALS, which won a Lambda Literary Award in 1998. She’s also edited “Whipped!” and two volumes of 5-MINUTE EROTICA, short-short erotic fiction. She has appeared in several explicit educational videos, notably “Carol Queen’s Great Vibrations: An Explicit Consumer Tour of Vibrators” and “Bend Over Boyfriend: An Adventurous Couple’s Guide to Male Anal Pleasure.”
Queen serves as Executive Director of the Center for Sex and Culture and works as staff sexologist and Chief Cultural Officer at Good Vibrations, the women-founded sex toy and book store in San Francisco, where she has worked since 1990, and blogs for the Good Vibrations web magazine at www.goodvibes.com. She has addressed numerous scholarly and professional conferences, including the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality, the International Condom Conference, the International Conference on Prostitution, and the International Conference on Pornography; she frequently addresses college as well as general and specialized audiences. In February 2009 she debated the question of promiscuity (“Virtue or vice?”) for the Oxford Union at Oxford University, England.
Carol is active on behalf of progressive sex education and sexual minority issues. She has been speaking publicly about non-mainstream sexualities, from lesbian to leather, for over 25 years. Her perspective in addressing sexual diversity incorporates personal experience, accurate sex information, and informed cultural commentary. For more information (including CV and bibliography) see her website: www.carolqueen.com.
DR. ROBERT MORGAN LAWRENCE, ED.D., has 35 years of non-profit experience in the field of human sexuality. He has a Doctorate of Education degree in Human Sexuality from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality and holds an additional doctoral-level degree in healthcare which informs his sexological perspective. He has served as a sex-industry consultant, educator and academic author, and has lectured both nationally and internationally about human sexuality and health. He has been an Associate Fellow of the American Academy of Clinical Sexology, the Chapter Secretary for the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality, and a member of the San Francisco Coalition for Healthy Sex.
From 1979 Lawrence served in volunteer positions on the switchboard and training staff, and then as training coordinator, of San Francisco Sex Information (SFSI); he shared the latter position with Dr. Queen. In the early 1990s they left the organization to pursue their own projects, traveling and teaching together widely as they developed the Center for Sex & Culture.
Lawrence has covered many sexuality-related topics during many years of public speaking. He has been a guest lecturer at San Francisco State University, Stanford University, UC Berkeley, UC Davis, Sonoma State, Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, and the University of Chicago, and has appeared in places as far-flung as Amsterdam, London and (on a 1994 Ford Foundation direct grant) Beijing. Lawrence and Queen have produced safer-sex education events of many kinds, including the live Masturbate-a-Thon that has become a significant fundraising event for the Center for Sex & Culture. He has been active as a safer-sex educator since 1980.
Robert co-wrote the entry on “Bisexuality in the U.S.” for The International Encyclopedia of Sexuality, edited by Robert Francoeur (Continuum, 1997). He has also published in the “Journal of Bisexuality” and has more recently written and published erotica. His work has been published in magazines and books and for many years he was regularly interviewed on radio and television programs worldwide. Limited mobility from a failed surgery has curtailed his activities with and for the CSC, though he continues to serve as its Board president.
Robert also makes collage art solo and with Carol, some of which has been shown at San Francisco galleries.
* * * * * * photo by Efrain John Gonzalez
PERVERTS PUT OUT!
The Election Erection Edition
Saturday, October 20 at 7:30 pm
The Center for Sex and Culture: 1349 Mission Street, San Francisco
As the rough electoral beast slouches toward the first Tuesday in November, PPO! stages a special celebration of democracy, dicks, and voteworthy vaginas! Performing pervs will include Jen Cross, Greta Cristina, Gina de Vries, Sam Sax, horehound stillpoint, Hew Wolff, and others TBA, cohosts Dr. Carol Queen and Simon Sheppard.
More information at: http://www.simonsheppard.com/simonsheppard’su.html
Tuesday, May 20, 6-9pm
Good Vibrations, 3219 Lakeshore Ave., Oakland 94610
We’re doubling down on Daddy fantasies with the launch of queer porn icon Madison Young’s sexy, searing memoir Daddy, exploring her search for a benevolent, heroic figure in a world of constant change. She’s joined by literary smutster extraordinaire Carol Queen, whose The Leather Daddy & the Femme started a trend for boundary-crossing, smart, kinky erotica.