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Douchebag Deviants class and Playing Well With Others: Lee Harrington and Mollena Williams Bookparty
Sunday, November 11th, 5-7pm
$15.00 At The Door
Center for Sex and Culture: 1349 Mission St. San Francisco, CA 94103
Join Lee Harrington and Mollena as they hit Northern California on their EPIC International Whistle Stop Tour 2012! They’ll be autographing copies of their best-selling book “Playing Well With Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Exploring & Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities” as well as their respective Toybag guises, Lee’s books “Sacred Sexuality” and “Shibari You Can Use” and Mollena’s DVD from Kink Academy on Submission and Service! Get ‘em autographed, meet the authots and support  them in their quest to kink across America & Canada!
That will also be presenting one of their co-presented classes, created especially for the “Whistle Stop Tour:” DOUCHEBAG DEVIANTS! 
How do you handle the persistent douchebag whose behaviour seems unchecked? The high-profile douchebag that everyone seems reluctant to confront? What should your behaviour be in the face of flagrant douchebaggery, and most importantly, how do we handle our own inner douchebag when they rear their ugly, nozzled, head?
This class takes a look at the gamut of idiocy…both ours and others, and examines ways to turn an awkward situation towards positive outcome, or opportunity to educate. Bring your stories, and let’s hash this out! From the silly to the serious, we’ll take a look at how we can manage ourselves, our expectations, and our reactions to Douchebag Deviants.
More about Playing Well With Others: The essential guide to kink outside the bedroom:
Whether you’re a trembling novice or a jaded expert, there’s always something new to be discovered in the endlessly changing, complex and titillating world of kink. While there are plenty of other books out there that explain how to give a spanking or tie a half-hitch, Playing Well With Others is the first book that explains kink *culture* — the munches, parties, leather bars, conferences, workshops, fetish nights, exploratoriums and all the other gatherings of kinksters that turn BDSM and leather from a bedroom predilection to a lifestyle and a community. 
You’ll learn to:
• Examine your own motivations, needs, wants and desires
• Ease your way into established communities
• Understand etiquette in different adventurous sex communities
• Familiarize yourself with the many types of events available to you
• Care for your relationships as you explore new territory
• Negotiate for play and aftercare
• Go back to the “world at large” without ruffling feathers
• …and, of course, answer the all-important question: What do you wear?!
The team of Harrington and Williams offers 30-plus years of experience in diverse kink communities: top, bottom and switch; gay, bi and  straight; female, male and trans; white and POC. Both former titleholders and international educators, they are an unbeatable pair of “sexual sherpas” with an inimitable voice and a great deal of wisdom. 
Playing Well With Others is an unprecedented and essential guidebook for anyone who wants to explore or understand the “community” aspect of the kink lifestyle.

Douchebag Deviants class and Playing Well With Others: Lee Harrington and Mollena Williams Bookparty

Sunday, November 11th, 5-7pm

$15.00 At The Door

Center for Sex and Culture: 1349 Mission St. San Francisco, CA 94103

Join Lee Harrington and Mollena as they hit Northern California on their EPIC International Whistle Stop Tour 2012! They’ll be autographing copies of their best-selling book “Playing Well With Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Exploring & Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities” as well as their respective Toybag guises, Lee’s books “Sacred Sexuality” and “Shibari You Can Use” and Mollena’s DVD from Kink Academy on Submission and Service! Get ‘em autographed, meet the authots and support  them in their quest to kink across America & Canada!

That will also be presenting one of their co-presented classes, created especially for the “Whistle Stop Tour:” DOUCHEBAG DEVIANTS! 

How do you handle the persistent douchebag whose behaviour seems unchecked? The high-profile douchebag that everyone seems reluctant to confront? What should your behaviour be in the face of flagrant douchebaggery, and most importantly, how do we handle our own inner douchebag when they rear their ugly, nozzled, head?

This class takes a look at the gamut of idiocy…both ours and others, and examines ways to turn an awkward situation towards positive outcome, or opportunity to educate. Bring your stories, and let’s hash this out! From the silly to the serious, we’ll take a look at how we can manage ourselves, our expectations, and our reactions to Douchebag Deviants.

More about Playing Well With Others: The essential guide to kink outside the bedroom:

Whether you’re a trembling novice or a jaded expert, there’s always something new to be discovered in the endlessly changing, complex and titillating world of kink. While there are plenty of other books out there that explain how to give a spanking or tie a half-hitch, Playing Well With Others is the first book that explains kink *culture* — the munches, parties, leather bars, conferences, workshops, fetish nights, exploratoriums and all the other gatherings of kinksters that turn BDSM and leather from a bedroom predilection to a lifestyle and a community. 

You’ll learn to:

• Examine your own motivations, needs, wants and desires

• Ease your way into established communities

• Understand etiquette in different adventurous sex communities

• Familiarize yourself with the many types of events available to you

• Care for your relationships as you explore new territory

• Negotiate for play and aftercare

• Go back to the “world at large” without ruffling feathers

• …and, of course, answer the all-important question: What do you wear?!

The team of Harrington and Williams offers 30-plus years of experience in diverse kink communities: top, bottom and switch; gay, bi and  straight; female, male and trans; white and POC. Both former titleholders and international educators, they are an unbeatable pair of “sexual sherpas” with an inimitable voice and a great deal of wisdom. 

Playing Well With Others is an unprecedented and essential guidebook for anyone who wants to explore or understand the “community” aspect of the kink lifestyle.

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Society of Janus Presents: self-ish Submission: Why your Needs Should be Nourished - presented by Mollena
Sunday, June 17, 2012
6:00 PM –8:00 PM
Center for Sex and Culture
1349 Mission Street, San Francisco
Doors open at 5:00 pm
Please note: you do not need to be a member to attend. Janus programs are open to all attendees 18 years of age and older who have a personal, positive interest in BDSM.
The program runs from 6:00 pm to 8:00 pm, but come early for a mixer and social event!
About Our Program
This exciting and timely program is presented for the Society of Janus by Mollena.
As submissives and slaves, we often approach our relationships from the viewpoint that the ultimate goal is to meet the needs of our partners, and in that way, have our own needs met. While this seems a lofty goal, fully abandoning one’s own needs and wants may not bring the blissful surrender you seek. Sometimes? We need more. Feedback, affection, focus, attention. In power exchange relationships (Hey, they’re called ”exchange” for a reason!) there needs to be an ebb and flow, a give and take that fulfills all parties involved. Knowing what you need, what it takes to achieve your needs, and expressing them clearly can help you be present and fulfilled in your relationships.
We will discuss ways to handle questions such as determining:
How do I know what I want?
What would happen if I have my needs met?
What would happen if I do not have my needs met?
When does serving another become compromising myself?
How do I know when I’ve gone too far?
This discussion will revolve around assessing, categorizing prioritizing and supporting your needs and your wants, and discovering what you are…or are not…willing to do to have these met.
About our Presenter, Mollena Williams
This “Delicate, Trembling Flower of Submission” © is a NYC born and raised writer, actress, BDSM Educator, Storyteller and an Award-Winning Executive Pervert. She is extremely proud to have served as International Ms Leather 2010. She is also thrilled to have been named Ms. San Francisco Leather 2009 after that contest’s decade long slumber.
Exploring kink since 1993, active in BDSM and the Leather Community since 1996, and presenting classes since 1998, she speaks at Leather, BDSM and Kink events across the US, Europe and Canada on many Leather and BDSM focused topics.

Society of Janus Presents: self-ish Submission: Why your Needs Should be Nourished - presented by Mollena

Sunday, June 17, 2012

6:00 PM –8:00 PM

Center for Sex and Culture

1349 Mission Street, San Francisco

Doors open at 5:00 pm

Please note: you do not need to be a member to attend. Janus programs are open to all attendees 18 years of age and older who have a personal, positive interest in BDSM.

The program runs from 6:00 pm to 8:00 pm, but come early for a mixer and social event!

About Our Program

This exciting and timely program is presented for the Society of Janus by Mollena.

As submissives and slaves, we often approach our relationships from the viewpoint that the ultimate goal is to meet the needs of our partners, and in that way, have our own needs met. While this seems a lofty goal, fully abandoning one’s own needs and wants may not bring the blissful surrender you seek. Sometimes? We need more. Feedback, affection, focus, attention. In power exchange relationships (Hey, they’re called ”exchange” for a reason!) there needs to be an ebb and flow, a give and take that fulfills all parties involved. Knowing what you need, what it takes to achieve your needs, and expressing them clearly can help you be present and fulfilled in your relationships.

We will discuss ways to handle questions such as determining:

How do I know what I want?

What would happen if I have my needs met?

What would happen if I do not have my needs met?

When does serving another become compromising myself?

How do I know when I’ve gone too far?

This discussion will revolve around assessing, categorizing prioritizing and supporting your needs and your wants, and discovering what you are…or are not…willing to do to have these met.

About our Presenter, Mollena Williams

This “Delicate, Trembling Flower of Submission” © is a NYC born and raised writer, actress, BDSM Educator, Storyteller and an Award-Winning Executive Pervert. She is extremely proud to have served as International Ms Leather 2010. She is also thrilled to have been named Ms. San Francisco Leather 2009 after that contest’s decade long slumber.

Exploring kink since 1993, active in BDSM and the Leather Community since 1996, and presenting classes since 1998, she speaks at Leather, BDSM and Kink events across the US, Europe and Canada on many Leather and BDSM focused topics.

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